'Two simple rules for effective banter and sarcasm':
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etF3GpvUvv8&feature=relmfu
"Sarcasm and banter can be one of the most fun and the most effective ways to spark up romantic interest and attraction between you and the person you’re going out with. In fact, often when the woman says after going out with a guy that she wasn’t feeling it, and that there was no chemistry there between her and her date, it’s because she has a sharp mind; she likes sarcasm; she’s being sarcastic herself, and the guy was just too stiff; too formal; he was walking on egg shells, so to speak; being afraid to say the wrong thing; he wasn’t funny, and he didn’t know how to banter. And he didn’t get her sarcasm either. So, it’s really worth learning how to banter and how to be sarcastic because it’s a major part of learning for many people, and it’s also a lot of fun.
There are two simple rules you should keep in mind in order to make the most out of your sarcasm: First, don’t be sarcastic too early on. If you just met someone and you’re practically total strangers to each other, it’s probably not a good idea to start throwing harsh, sarcastic, or cynical jokes one after the other. You should probably show your serious and you’re interesting side first to the other person, and then you can start gradually being sarcastic and banter, and see how the other person responds to it. Do they like it? Do they get it? Do they understand it? And depending upon on their reaction, you can be more sarcastic, less sarcastic, and otherwise adjust your conversation so you get along. This doesn’t mean that you have to be fake, or you have to cater to what your company necessarily wants to hear, but adjusting your level of sarcasm or your level of humour – with reason – is a good idea generally.
And secondly, make sure that you don’t go too far with your sarcasm. If every single thing you say…is sarcastic, you’re gonna make the wrong impression on the other person. You’re either gonna come across as someone who is too cynical; too negative about the world around them, or you’re gonna appear as someone who is hiding their real self; their real face; their real identity behind this sarcastic mask, and that’s also the impression that you wanna avoid giving. Most of what you say should probably be something other than sarcasm. And your banter and sarcasm should be the icing on the cake, where the cake is all the smart and all the interesting things that you’re sharing with the other person.
Thank you."
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