Transcripts of dating advice by a man from practicalhappiness.com, for any hard-of-hearing folk who are interested in such advice on YouTube.
'For women: Your looks VS. personality':
"It is often suggested that guys care more about looks when it comes to meeting a woman for the first time, or even seeing a woman for the first time, while women care more about personality when it comes to their initial interactions with the opposite sex. While this might be true to a certain extent – and of course, men by nature are more visually stimulated than women – there is an important caveat (?) to this that you as a woman should know when it comes to dating and long-term relationships. And even if what I say is gonna sounds obvious, I think it’s still worthwhile for you to hear.
A woman’s attractiveness, and a woman’s looks, might attract a guy initially and keep his interest for a short while, but that’s not what’s gonna make the guy stick around and wanna be in a longer-term relationship with you. Now, why is that? Well, I am sure that you’re not gonna be surprised to hear that there are a lot of attractive women out there. Go to any club, any bar, any restaurant, any yoga class, or any other class, and you will see plenty of beautiful girls. Some of them are extremely attractive. So, no matter how beautiful you are, there is always gonna be someone else out there who is just as attractive or more attractive than you are.
Now, the good news is that far fewer women out there who are attractive have the inside to match their outside. Very few of them have the personality that’s-that’s just as beautiful as their looks. Now, if all you have is your looks, and your personality’s average, so to speak, or below, why would the guy wanna stick around? Why wouldn’t he be looking for someone funnier? Someone more interesting; somebody who enjoys - who he enjoys spending time with more; somebody who he enjoys talking to; having dinners and doing others things…more. The same applies to you – you want the company that’s interesting; that’s stimulating to you; somebody who’s entertaining, who is also smart and challenging. So, your personality is what’s gonna make the guy stick around – make no mistake about it. There’s nothing you can do about your looks to make a guy wanna be around you for months or for years or even to marry you, but it’s your exceptional personality that’s gonna make the guy realise, “Oh, wow…she’s not like most others that I have met or I have dated before – she’s someone very unique; she’s someone very special; she’s someone that - unlike anyone I have ever met… She’s a great listener; she gets my jokes; she dishes out…jokes of her own; she can relate to what I’m talking about; she’s very knowledgeable; she seems to be accomplished, but at the same time she’s mo-modest; she has a good…style; she’s well-spoken, and at the same time she’s not very loud; er, she treats me well; she seems to like me; she seems to be open and outgoing when the time is right; erm, she seems to have other qualities about her – other than her looks – that make her stand out from the rest of the attractive women”. And that’s what would make the guy go, “Oh, wow, she is…not someone I’m gonna meet again very soon, so I better take this seriously; I better get to know her and I better see if she might be my life-time partner”. Thank you."
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