Transcripts of dating advice by a man from practicalhappiness.com, for any hard-of-hearing folk who are interested in such advice on YouTube.
'Money and your relationship':
"One of the more common – if not the most common – reason for problems and stress in relationships is financial issues. It’s the problems that couples deal with when it comes to not making enough money or spending too money or having too much debt… And, while there might not be a way to quickly, to immediately solve your financial p-problems and make more money or completely eliminate your debt over night, there is one thing – there is one simple thing you can do in order to address those issues between the two of you far more effectively. And that is: beginning to recognise the importance of money to you and to your relationship. Too many people out there run around and like to announce to others that they don’t care about money; money means nothing to them – they only care about love, art, their dreams, and other things but not money. If you don’t feel comfortable admitting to yourself and to others that money is important to you, then you will not be able to openly talk about the issues that you have with your partner…whether it’s your spending habits; whether it’s your saving habits; your investments; and the major purchases that you make. If you - if you’re in denial about the importance and the value of finances in your life, you’re not gonna be able to address the issues that you have effectively. But once you accept and once you start feeling comfortable talking about the fact that money and savings and investment plans and reducing debt, and perhaps getting a promotion – the moment you start admitting to yourself and to your partner that that’s important to you and to your relationship, and it affects your love and how you feel about each other (to some extent), you will be way ahead of being able to…get over the disagreements that you have when it comes to money, and find more common ground on how to deal with issues. And when you work together on the financial challenges that you have, you’re far more likely to solve them. Thank you."
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